Clearly I was first and foremost a black man to her… She probably wouldn’t have been having the conversation with a straight black guy either.
As pick-up talk goes, it wasn’t even remotely promising. Maybe she wanted me to know that she had done well.
White men navigate society with relative ease while black women are teetering on the precarious margins of race and gender that they do not have the privilege to ignore.
This is not a game to us, nor is it something we can ignore.
(One can probably say the same thing about gay black men who date white men.) You’re rarely the first, and you probably won’t be the last. He said it probably has to do with the male emphasis on the physical.
Men are driven primarily by physical attraction when choosing a partner, while with women, other factors can play just as vital a role.
We ended up hitting it off, but it wasn’t until our first date that I realized I had underestimated the wingman’s abilities. And her high praise included black women — that underdog demo that, Beyoncé aside, is often overlooked by whites with a down-with-blacks sexual agenda. I can’t recall ever previously having had a conversation with a white woman who dates black men about dating black men. The men are just hotter.” She sounded almost apologetic, which meant she’d spent some time thinking not only about her proclivity for black people but also about how it must come across to them. She was a chatty and congenial Aussie, with a distinctive no-bullshit edge. And a number of biracial celebrities — including Alicia Keys, Drake, Halle Berry, and Wentworth Miller — were born to white mothers and black fathers.Most importantly on a Friday night, she was a straight woman in gay bar who wasn’t playing the I’m-such-a-fabulous-fag-hag card while taking up way more space than necessary. I have a theory about white women and black men, and it goes a little something like this.