Dating chinese girls in america post dating contracts
No, I can’t confirm if Asian women have tight vaginas. Assume I would be a passive, submissive, and obedient partner.Here’s basic manners 101: never comment or inquire on an individual’s body unless they grant you permission to do. Unless we’re dating and I’ve explicitly expressed to you I enjoy being submissive in the relationship or bedroom, don’t automatically assume I will conform to these gender and race roles solely because I’m Asian.Sadly, I’ve had multiple men come up to me and say, “I’ve never been with an Asian girl before ;)” or “I’ve always had a thing for Asian girls,” as if those statements would make me want to climb into bed with them.I understand that people can’t help who they are attracted to, but explaining your Asian fetish to me is inappropriate at best and disturbing at worst.As author Chin Lu points out in her article , “Why do some men make the automatic assumptions that I am quiet, docile, great at domestic tasks, eager to please men, and my vagina is more magical than average? Go away.”Like the example provided in the image on the left, justifying your Asian fetish with “I just think Asian women are far more superior in looks and intelligence” is racist and sexist.[Am I] supposed to feel complimented when those people are attracted to me? The screenshot of You Tuber Anna Akana sums it up perfectly. Telling me you find me attractive because you find women of other races unattractive is not a compliment. In Shimizu’s article, The Hypersexuality of Race: Performing Asian/American Women on Screen and Scene, she says the sexuality of Asian women are often “framed in rivalry with a white women in terms of competing for idealized heterosexual femininity.” As an intersectional feminist, I will not tolerate anyone that thinks I should be flattered that I’m considered “superior” to people I stand beside, not against.
When you frame a compliment under the umbrella of me being Asian, you diminish the value and sincerity of your words.
When you bring your ex’s race into the conversation without prior context, it makes you appear heartbroken and desperate for an Asian girlfriend replacement — a role I have zero interest in filling.
Anime, K-pop, and martial arts are growing in popularity in Western culture, but that doesn’t mean every Asian person in Western society shares this interest.
”Newsflash: mentioning your ex’s ethnicity doesn’t make you more desirable, sexually appealing, or trustworthy — and it certainly doesn’t make you appear more cultured if you’re a white heterosexual man.
Instead, all you’ve informed me is that you once dated a girl that vaguely looks like me with ancestors that also came from the largest continent in the world.